Sometimes it’s not what’s happening. It’s what keeps repeating.
A conversation that circles back to the same point. A decision you keep putting off. A situation that changes shape… and ends up the same. In the moment, it’s not always obvious. It looks like a one-off. A particular day. A normal reaction. But look at it with a little more calm, and it starts to take shape.
In psychology, this is called a behavioral pattern — an idea rooted in the work of behaviorists like B. F. Skinner, describing how we repeat learned behavior over time. In everyday life, it’s simpler: it’s the thing that happens to you “again”… even when the situation looks different.
And once you notice it, something shifts. Not because it’s solved. But because it no longer feels random. It starts to be seen.
Which brings up an important question: how do I actually see what’s repeating?
Because thinking about it isn’t always enough. In your head, it gets tangled. Justified. Smoothed over. But written down… it takes a different shape.
That’s often where writing starts to make sense — not as an exercise, but as a way of seeing. In my journal, My Woman’s Journal, this is one of the very first steps: putting what repeats on paper, so you can see it clearly.
Not to over-analyze it. Not to make it perfect. Just to get it out of your head and give it a shape. Because once you see it written down… it’s not the same anymore.
And that opens up space. Not to change everything at once. But to stop living it on autopilot. Because not everything that repeats has to keep going the same way. It just needs to be seen.
I’m Saskia Fulco, and this space is for exactly that: to help you see clearly what you’re already feeling, bring order to it, and start deciding from a different place. No pressure. At your own pace.